Pregnant at 43 – Tautologies Fulfilled!
After converting to Catholicism and realizing the wonderful truths of faith regarding family life and fertility, I understood what beautiful gifts children are. Indeed, in spite of my failings, the greatest blessings of my life had been watching my older two children grow up, so being open to life while I still had a chance was an easy assent to faith. I also am blessed with good health and a supportive husband who puts our family before everything else and loves me with all his heart. It’s been a long path with difficulties along the way, but the journey has been fruitful.
After the year we just had, I didn’t think God could work any more wonderful miracles.
I wrote this over a year ago when we were surprised with that baby boy, in the top picture, after two heartbreaking miscarriages. I was almost ready to avoid ever getting pregnant again.
If I’m really open to life, then I have decided that I must stick with that idea to the end. This isn’t a lecture to anyone else because health concerns are certainly valid concerns. These are simply the thoughts of a redeemed and once broken woman who has been lifted by the richness of the Church and the grace and glory of Christ. I’ve had a lot of sorrow in my past and I like the idea of being open to life after 40. So what are my tautologous thoughts?
So here we are, homschooling and loving our new environment, and now that we are all settled…we find out there’s a new little Trasancos. My tautologous thoughts are fulfilled, once again, at age 43.
We’re pregnant!
Please pray for us, pray for the health of this new little child not much bigger than the period at the end of this sentence. People ask whether the union of gametes constitutes a human worthy of our unconditional love, and to that, we enthusiastically say, ABSOLUTELY. This little one has already changed our lives, just as the others have in their own ways, and I can only hope that God grants us many years to hold this child. And if not, then the fact of today is still the fact of today: Someone new exists in our family, and that someone is loved. Today is a celebration, and I was never very good at keeping secrets…
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Oh Stacy! That’s Suoer news!! Congratulations on this precious little life. We had our 6th baby after a number of miscarriages when I was about that age. She has health issues totally unrelated to my age but she has been such a gift to this family and has really brought our home to life. We never though another child would join our family so she is really a prize!! I’m looking forward to this baby and sending prayers for his/her and your health. J
I want to send my congratulations to you and your husband on this announcement. I love the first picture, what a beautiful family, think this is the first I’ve seen where you’ve included your husband. May this child you now carry within just add to the abundent joy and blessings you share with us.
HUGE E-HUG…and a two handed shake to the knight (cause real men only hug at funerals
) Really happy for you, Stacy. Must be that mountain air.
Congratulations!
Such joyful news!
You and your husband are such a witness to surrendering to God’s will!
God will bless you abundantly for being so faithful!
My deepest admiration!
Love,
Maria
Keep this up and you can do home-church with your own congregation.
Congratulations.
What wonderful news!!! Congrats on the new person in the family!
Congratulations. the Trasancos family is now on my permanent
prayer list. keep us apprised of everything. love to you and
Gods greatest blessings.
YAY! Congratulations! Very Happy for the Transacos gang – how exciting! Praying for your family!
Congratulations
Whoot! From one “old” mommy to another, congratulations on this most precious new gift!
Congrats! What wonderful news! You and your family will be in my prayers =)
DEO GRATIAS!
Congratulations! What a blessing!
Heartfelt congratulations to you and your beautiful family! I love what you wrote!
It is one more piece that has clicked into place for me in resolving my own issues with openness to life after 40. I just had my 8th at 41, and would love another more than anything, but have wrestled so much with fear of miscarriage, and even fear of trying and failing to conceive. So, thank you for addressing these fears with that happiest of tautologies! I will keep you in my prayers.
Congratulations!!! So happy for you and your family!
Congratulations!!!! How exciting!
Wow, that is so exciting…Im really happy for you. I am not good at keeping these sorts of secrets either…I told the world the minute that the stick turned pink.
Life is so strange…you are a pregnant lady at 43 and at 47, I am a widowed grandmother…dang, that is quite a difference for 2 women only 4 years apart in age
Tammy, I’ve been thinking about you every day.
I am also a grandmother of two. This baby is already an aunt or uncle, LOL.
Congrats! Hope you have a happy, healthy, issue-free pregnancy.
Stacy: Congratulations! Thank you for sharing with us how God blesses you.
You have a beautiful family! Congratulations on the pregnancy! You are so blessed to be a Mama and to be able to concieve. I am 46 and married for five years. Husband and I met on a Catholic Singles website. I have been a teacher at a daycare for twenty five years and love children. I’ve always wanted to be a Mama. Husband and I struggled to be able to concieve, but were unable to. I was diagnosed with endometriosis early in my marriage and had to endure two surgeries. Current GYN recommends either Lupron or a hysterectomy, but I have been told having a hysterectomy is against the Catholic church even for medical reasons (pain, fibroids, ect.)? My arms and heart ache for a child, but it looks like I’m unable. I’m very sad and discouraged. I will pray for you, your family, and unborn child and offer up my pains and suffering for you to have a happy, holy, and healthy pregnancy and child! May God Bless you!
PS. My name is Maria Therese. I have a special devotion to the Blessed Mother and her rosary. I’ve been praying the rosary for years for a child and will continue to, even though there isn’t much hope.
Maria, I will pray for you too sister, that some sense is made out of this for you and your husband. You may already know her, but if you don’t, please visit my friend Leila’s blog.
See her post today: http://littlecatholicbubble.blogspot.com/2012/09/quick-takes-grateful-for-discomfort.html
She has a link to her other blog too. It is about adoption. I don’t know if you feel called to that or not, but there was one little boy I was praying for, along with so many other people, and I ached to grab him from the crib where he’d spent his whole five years of life in an orphanage. I so wanted to adopt him and bring him here to grow up with all these little kids, taking walks in nature with us and being loved like every child should.
But — for unfortunate reasons in my past, we cannot adopt. It broke my heart.
Then, I got pregnant. You can’t adopt if you’re pregnant either, so I guess God had a plan all along and I just didn’t know it.
Go visit Leila.
Thank you, Stacy!!
And, Maria, you were misinformed. You most certainly can have a hysterectomy for pathologies and medical reasons! It is not against Church teaching. I will pray for you!
Congratulations! How exciting!
Congratulations!!!
This Little Aristotle is going to be something very special in the world………
Congratulations Stacy! I am so happy for you and your whole family! Praying for this lovely baby!
And to Maria, please also look into getting a consultation with a NaPro doctor before completely giving up hope or having a hysterectomy (though as Leila said, it is allowed for medical reasons). NaPro is Natural Procreative Technology-it is a holistic system of healthcare developed by a catholic Dr that seeks to restore and preserve fertility and health. You can contact Pope Paul VI Institute or look on http://www.fertilitycare.org/ to search for Doctors near you. My prayers are with you!
Congratulations, Stacey! Wonderful news!
No matter what happens, this sweet baby will forever be a precious, irreplaceable part of your family. Many blessings and much love!
Did you ever see the movie, “Moonstruck”?
There’s a scene where Cher’s character is talking to her mother, played by Olympia Dukakis, doubting about being able to have children at 37, as she’s about to marry for the second time.
Her mother’s response? “It isn’t over, till it’s over.” You know what that second “it’s” refers to. Wink, wink. This one is not necessarily your last.
Congratulations! I wish you a healthy, smooth pregnancy and a healthy, happy baby!
Danielle,
I did see that movie a long time ago – probably back when I never thought I’d even have this many kids! Thank you so much for your healthy wishes! I do hope it goes well. We’ll see if any more come along later. Haha!